Focusing on Clearings
We’ve already reached the halfway point of the summer cycle, can you believe it?
We’ve been focusing on clearings this week, which can be a crunchy subject for many. Confrontations can easily bring up past wounds and fears of rejection and/or abandonment, which is why they are so easy to avoid.
However, we’ve all been in a situation where avoiding conflict hurt more than it would have to just deal with it, so it’s an important part of what we do here at WIT.
The name of the game is shadow-hunting and conflicts are usually fraught with them, so let’s look at a few questions we can ask ourselves before clearing with anyone:
- What is the data around my charge?
- What deeper wound is my anger pointing toward?
- How does this person’s behavior mirror back my own patterns or false self-beliefs?
It’s important to note that clearings are not really about the other person, but ourselves. This doesn’t dismiss their wrongdoing but rather gives us an opportunity to tackle the things that
are within our control – our reaction, what we do with the impact, and taking ownership of our part.
If you have a charge against someone in WIT and are uncomfortable with approaching them alone, feel free to reach out to a facilitator you trust and they will be more than happy to be there to help you through it!
