What Do You Do When You're Stressed

Joanne Louis-Paul • October 12, 2023
A large tree casting long shadows across snow

Life is full of stressors. A mean boss, a defiant toddler, rising financial obligations, and the list goes on. How do we keep on track with our programs in the face of all this? 


Having a support group cheering us on and holding us accountable is one piece of it. Another is being honest with ourselves. 


We invite you to take a look at your “shadows,” or the regressive, compulsive, or addictive behaviors that crop up when you’re feeling angry, sad, lonely, or tired. 


Shadow behaviors can look like:

  • Overeating
  • Overworking
  • Procrastination
  • Self-isolation


Take some time this week to sit with yourself, write down your shadow behaviors, and consider making yourself accountable to a current WIT participant. It can be as simple as sending a text when you feel like going to the fridge when you know you should be going to bed.


We need to know what we need before we can ask for help, so we hope you’ll dig a little deeper to find those shadows and then reach out for support.

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