Clearings
It’s hard to believe that we are already halfway through the Summer Cycle! This week, we’re focusing on conflict resolution, or what we refer to as “clearings.”
This can be a challenging and triggering subject for many. Depending on our upbringing, we can either be very good at confronting relational issues or very avoidant (and, certainly, many of us fall somewhere in the middle on this spectrum).
Clearings can bring up core fears of abandonment, rejection, and/or dealing with our or the other person’s anger. Some of us grew up in homes where no one ever expressed anger and some of us grew up in homes where anger was the only acceptable emotion to show. Either of these systems sets us up for having a tougher time addressing issues in our personal and professional lives.
The good news is: Conflict resolution is a learnable skill that is never too late to obtain! We invite you to take this week to think about the people in your life (in and outside of WIT) who you have a charge against and reach out to them to clear it.
Before you do, check in with yourself with these three questions:
- What is the data around my charge?
- What deeper wounds is my anger pointing to or triggering?
- How does this person’s behavior mirror back my own limiting or false self-beliefs?
Remember, clearings are not about the other person. Though they may have actually done something hurtful, the healing and release comes from recognizing that there is something within us that we’re seeing in them. We can’t change the other person, but we can make different choices for ourselves and that is truly powerful.
If you have a charge against someone in WIT and are uncomfortable with approaching them alone, feel free to reach out to a facilitator you trust and they will be more than happy to be there to help you through it!
